Years
ago I asked a young man who was engaged to be married, “How do you know that
you love her?” It was a loaded question, intended to help him look at his
heart’s motives for the upcoming marriage. After several thoughtful moments, he
responded, “I know I love her because I want to spend the rest of my life
making her happy.”
We
discussed what that meant—and the price tag attached to the selflessness of
constantly seeking the best for the other person, rather than putting ourselves
first. Real love has a lot to do with sacrifice.
That
idea is in line with the wisdom of the Bible. In the Scriptures there are
several Greek words for love but the highest form is agape love—love that is
defined and driven by self-sacrifice. Nowhere is this more true than in the
love our heavenly Father has shown us in Christ. We are deeply valued by Him.
Paul stated, “God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were
still sinners, Christ died for us” (Rom. 5:8).
If
sacrifice is the true measure of love, there could be no more precious gift
than Jesus: “For God loved the world so much that he gave his one and only Son”
(John 3:16 nlt).
The measure of love is what you are
willing to give up for it. (RBC)
