Scott had always admired the relationship between Ken and Phyllis, his
wife’s parents. So he asked them one day what made their marriage work. Ken
replied, “You need to keep it sweet!”
A friend of mine concludes many of her notes to me and other friends
with these words: “Remember to be good to each other.”
That’s great advice from both of them about being kind. The daily
stresses of life can easily cause us to get irritable with our spouses or with
others. We pick at the little annoyances or criticize minor habits. We blurt out
harmful, unkind words without thinking.
The book of Proverbs gives us counsel about the words we use with
others. It says, “Whoever guards his mouth and tongue keeps his soul from
troubles” (21:23). And there are these warnings: “Death and life are in the
power of the tongue” (18:21); and “Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the
tongue of the wise brings healing” (12:18 niv). Ken’s advice about “keeping it
sweet” reminds me of Proverbs 16:24, “Pleasant words are like a honeycomb,
sweetness to the soul and health to the bones.”
Kind hearts are the gardens; kind thoughts are the roots; kind words are the flowers; kind deeds are the fruits. (RBC)